There is an old Sufi story about an old dog that had been badly abused and was near starvation. One day the dog was so hungry that it chewed on the bone for a long time and got every last bit of nourishment that it could out of it. After some time, a kind old man noticed the dog and its pathetic scrap and began quietly setting food out for it. But the poor hound was so attached to its bone that it refused to let go of it and starved to death.
We can be in the same predicament as the hound. As long as we hold onto our suffering we cannot allow ourselves to experience or enjoy life. To let go of our suffering would be to lose our sense of identity. We can begin to transform when we rid ourselves of this outdated story of suffering and begin to rewrite it. This consists of changing habitual habits and behaviors that are not serving you. Begin to catch yourself in the act of being the victim. You have the power to make changes in your life and create a story that fills your heart with inner peace and joy.