New I Messages 1. Please think of some situations in which you could have been more explicit in terms of stating your needs. Now that you are familiar with the use of “I” statements what could you have said? 2. Think of one incident in which you could have used the three part I message. 1) Describe the behavior of concern 2) Describe the tangible effects of behavior 3) Clarify what needs to be done to rectify the situation. Send Click the Send button to e-mail your responses to your coach. Click here to download the Word Document.